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<!--Generated by Squarespace Site Server v4.1.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/) on Sat, 10 May 2008 23:03:37 GMT--><rss xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><title>E-Spiritual Coffee Break</title><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/</link><description></description><copyright>First Presbyterian Church, Fargo 2008</copyright><language>en-US</language><generator>Squarespace Site Server v4.1.2 (http://www.squarespace.com/)</generator><item><title>May 1, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 02 May 2008 19:45:33 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/5/2/may-1-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1805988</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Jesus Christ seems to me to have been one of the most focused, intentional people who truly lived out his life from his true self. The names others called him &ndash; Savior, Messiah, Lord, Teacher, Son of God &ndash; identified who he was and what his mission in life was. </p><p>In John 17, Jesus was on the way to the cross, in the Upper Room with the disciples, when he revealed his life&rsquo;s purpose in a prayer, &ldquo;I know You&hellip; and I have made You known to them.&rdquo; The Message puts it this way, &ldquo;Righteous Father, I have known You and these disciples know that You sent me on this mission. I have made Your very being known to them &ndash; who You are and what You do.&rdquo; </p><p>Laurie Beth Jones in &ldquo;Jesus, CEO&rdquo; writes: </p><p>&ldquo;Jesus knew his mission statement, and he did not deviate from it. He declared that his mission was, in essence, to teach people about a better way of life. He saw himself as a teacher and a healer. </p><p>An ancient adage says &ldquo;If you want to defeat them, distract them.&rdquo; In the wilderness Jesus was given several &ldquo;business opportunities&rdquo; that did not relate to his mission. </p><p>Each of these opportunities was related to talents that Jesus has, and used, in some form or another during his tenure. But he resisted them because they did not fit his mission statement. </p><p>Pause for a moment and consider the things Jesus did not do. Here is someone endowed with limitless power from on high. He could have done literally anything. Yet he did not build a temple or a synagogue. He did not write or distribute books. He did not even heal all the sick people in the world. He did not go down to the graveyards and raise everyone from the dead. He did not build shopping malls. His mission was very specific. </p><p>Jesus stuck to his mission.&rdquo; </p><p>Do you know your personal mission statement? Until we know our mission we will never know if we have accomplished what God desires for us! </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1805988.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>April 10, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2008 16:01:29 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/4/10/april-10-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1751878</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Henri Nouwen was a Catholic priest who wrote about spirituality. In one of his books he addressed the dilemma of loneliness. He said, </p><p>&ldquo;It is far from easy to enter into the painful experience of loneliness. You like to stay away from it. Still it is an experience that enters into everyone&rsquo;s life at some point. You might have felt it as a little child when your classmates laughed at you because you were cross-eyed or as a teenager when you were the last one chosen on the baseball team. You might have felt it when you were angry about non-sense rules which you could not change. You might have felt it as a young adult in a university where everyone talked about grades but where a good friend was hard to find. You might have felt it as a teacher when students did not respond to your carefully prepared lectures or as a preacher when people were dozing during your well-intentioned sermons. And you still might feel it day after day during staff meetings, conferences, counseling sessions, during long office hours or monotonous manual labor, or just when you are by yourself staring away from a book that cannot keep your attention. Practically every human being can recall similar or much more dramatic situations in which he or she has experienced that strange inner gnawing, that mental hunger, that unsettling unrest that makes us say, &lsquo;I feel lonely&hellip;&rsquo; </p><p>But what then can we do with our essential aloneness which so often breaks into our consciousness as the experience of a desperate sense of loneliness? Instead of running away from our loneliness and trying to forget or deny it, we have to protect it and turn it into a fruitful solitude. To live a spiritual life we must first find the courage to enter into the desert of our loneliness and to change it by gentle and persistent efforts into a garden of solitude. This requires not only courage but also a strong faith. As hard as it is to believe that the dry desolate desert can yield endless varieties of flowers, it is equally hard to imagine that our loneliness is hiding unknown beauty. The movement from loneliness to solitude, however, is the beginning of any spiritual life because it is the movement form the restless senses to the restful spirit, from the outward reaching cravings to the inward-reaching search&hellip;&rdquo; </p><p>May our restless senses be transformed by Christ, and may we find &ldquo;peace that passes understanding.&rdquo; </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1751878.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>April 2, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 03 Apr 2008 14:41:46 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/4/3/april-2-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1735247</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Recently, I made an appointment with a Spiritual Director. I had one up until our move to North Dakota, two and a half years ago. A Spiritual Director is a person who has been trained in helping people discern what God is up to in his/her life. At our first meeting, he asked me to tell him about what prompted me to seek spiritual direction at this time. I told him a few things that I thought may have prompted me. Then he asked me a question, &ldquo;Where do you think God is in your ministry?&rdquo; I began talking about where I thought we needed to move, how we had grown, and what some challenges still were. I talked on for about twenty-five minutes, until it was time for my appointment to be over. He then said, &ldquo;I asked you a little while ago, &lsquo;Where do you think God is in your ministry?&rsquo; and you told me a lot about what you are doing. Where is God in it?&rdquo; I looked at him puzzled. He continued, &ldquo;Often in ministry we are busy and we ask God to come along with us. But, what is God doing in you and in your people? What is God inviting you to do? Do you see the difference?&rdquo; </p><p>It was like a light bulb being turned on in a dark room! Recognizing the risen Christ was what happened after Jesus walked the Emmaus road with two of the disciples and as he &ldquo;took bread, blessed and broke it and gave it to them (Luke 24:30).&rdquo; </p><p>Recognizing Christ is what it is about! Recognizing what Christ is doing and orienting our lives around it is so different than doing a lot of things in the name of Christ. </p><p>I find myself now more centered, more peaceful, more focused! It is one thing to follow the lead of the risen Christ and it is another to create a spiritual community on your own! </p><p>Do we recognize His presence? </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1735247.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>March 27, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2008 20:46:10 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/3/27/march-27-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1719352</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Several weeks ago, I was listening to a person talking about a difficult situation in his family. He was at a loss for what to do. I listened&hellip; He laid it on the table, &ldquo;What can I do?&rdquo; He was beginning to realize that there was nothing he could do to change the person(s) in his family. </p><p>I was reminded recently of the following story: </p><p>A wise, old Middle Eastern mystic said this about himself. &ldquo;I was a revolutionary when I was young, and all my prayer to God was: &lsquo;Lord, give me the energy to change the world.&rsquo; As I approached middle age and realized that my life was half gone without my changing a single soul, I changed my prayer to: &lsquo;Lord, give me the grace to change all those who come into contact with me. Just my family and friends and I shall be satisfied.&rsquo; Now that I am an old man and my days are numbered, I have begun to see how foolish I have been. My one prayer now is: &lsquo;Lord, give me the grace to change myself.&rsquo; If I had prayed this right from the start, I would not have wasted my life.&rdquo; </p><p>&ldquo;Lord, give me the grace to change myself!&rdquo; Or, as the Serenity Prayer says, &ldquo;Grant me&hellip; the courage to change the things I can&hellip;&rdquo; </p><p>The person I was listening to suddenly realized that he could not change his family situation, yet he could change how he dealt with it, how he acted&hellip; He bagin to realize that by changing how he acted that he could potentially bring about the greatest change in his family. </p><p>Where is your focus? </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1719352.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>March 5, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 05 Mar 2008 22:31:37 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/3/5/march-5-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1641541</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>I am a big picture person. That is I see the forest, not the trees. I am best motivated by visualizing what I am working towards, how the details fit together. If I have a big picture, I begin to plan and work, and if I slow down and let God into it I pray. I am really trying to do more of that and to take better care of myself, yet some days my schedule is not my own, and I need to respond to an unscheduled person or situation and soon I am chasing my tail around in fatigue. Or, other days, I get so excited about something going on in a ministry or how God is working. If I do not stop, rest, and refuel then I am running on empty. Not very often, but sometimes after a rigorous pursuit, I am frustrated because I do not see any results of my efforts &ndash; I don&rsquo;t see any changes, any signs of God&rsquo;s presence and kingdom. </p><p>And if it goes on long enough, I feel like I&rsquo;m in a valley of dry bones, where the life and Spirit are gone and I hear God asking, &ldquo;Mortal, how can these bones live (Ezekiel 37:3)?&rdquo; </p><p>How can our spirit be encouraged? How can we regain a sense of purpose? How can we get motivated again? </p><p>About three years ago, my family and I visited Cozumel. A friend told us of a dive shop that he knew. My wife, son and I decided to take scuba lessons. I remember getting suited up after some instruction and going under water for the first time. The instructor&rsquo;s words before I went under were, &ldquo;Remember to breathe.&rdquo; It was easier said than done, however. </p><p>Ezekiel reminds us, &ldquo;Remember to breathe.&rdquo; God said to Ezekiel, &ldquo;I will cause breath to enter you, and you shall live.&rdquo; Wherever we are dead, dry, broken, hurt, remember to breathe and let God&rsquo;s Spirit bring life. </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1641541.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>February 27, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:13:59 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/3/3/february-27-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1634573</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Last week&rsquo;s work trip to southern Louisiana to extend the love of Christ to victims of the 2005 hurricanes ended on a crescendo that quickly crashed. We had connected with the family whose house we worked on in very meaningful ways, and we accomplished some significant work &ndash; painting rooms, building shelves, hanging hurricane connectors, installing decking, putting up stud walls, etc. And then, on Saturday morning as we were preparing to leave, one of the team asked where another person was. It was his habit to be up and drinking coffee at 6:00AM. It was now 6:50AM. Someone checked on him, and he did not answer the knock. Upon opening the door, we discovered he had died of a heart attack in the middle of the night&hellip; This tragedy was compounded by the death of his son on Monday as he was walking from his hotel to his parents&rsquo; home. Grief upon grief&hellip; tragedy upon tragedy. This week has been chaotic and soul-searching for many. </p><p>Often at funerals, one hears the words of Psalm 23. As I read the psalm now, my mind&rsquo;s heart goes to the words, &ldquo;He makes me lie down in green pastures.&rdquo; I am told that sheep will not lie down unless the conditions are right. Right meaning: </p><p>1. Free of fear </p><p>2. Free of friction in the flock </p><p>3. Free of pest </p><p>The presence of a gracious, caring shepherd provide s the sheep with the opportunity to maintain strength. </p><p>The presence of the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ, provides a calm in the midst of the storms of life! </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1634573.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>February 20, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 22 Feb 2008 18:29:28 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/2/22/february-20-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1609871</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>As this email goes out, I am in Houma, LA working with a group from First Presbyterian Church, Fargo. This week, in conjunction with Presbyterian Disaster Assistance, we are helping to rebuild the homes of those destroyed by Hurricane Katrina in September 2005. Now, you that know me, you can attest that my handyman skills and certainly my construction skills are minimal at best. I really wonder what my role on this team is. And yet, the longer we go along, nine of us, the more I am realizing that I have one&hellip; </p><p>I clip articles and file them for later use. Well, in March 2006, the Fargo Forum published an article, &ldquo;Role Players Drive a Team,&rdquo; by Tim Wendal. In the article he says, &ldquo;When the stakes get as high as they are this weekend in college basketball, with a national championship at stake, a team of all-stars at every position often doesn&rsquo;t win. The champions, like the best companies, church groups or community organization, often have the best role players &ndash; the people who are willing to give up their individuality for the good of the team.&rdquo; </p><p>Wendal quotes Barry Posner, Professor of Leadership at Santa Clara University, &ldquo;Cooperation beats competition hands down.&rdquo; Posner adds teams often fail because the star players try to do it all. Teams are most effective when people are synergistic &ndash; working in conjunction with each other. Posner says, &ldquo;Professional hockey has it right when it rewards players not just for goals scored but for assists on goals scored by others, too.&rdquo; The apostle Paul wrote, &ldquo;We are God&rsquo;s servants (synergoi), working together.&rdquo; (I Corinthians 3:9) </p><p>This week, I am experiencing that I don&rsquo;t need to be a star-studded nail driver, but I have the role of gopher, assistant, encourager, etc. </p><p>Our teams &ndash; church, community organizations, etc. &ndash; don&rsquo;t need just star leaders, but key role players. What is your role on God&rsquo;s team and have you stepped up and joined in? </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1609871.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>February 14, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:27:14 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/2/14/february-14-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1577028</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>This week, again in staff meeting, everyone was discussing concerns they were dealing with in their positions. A primary concern by most everyone was role confusion. In moving from a traditional, church approach to a Missional &ndash; externally focused church prospective, the role of staff changes. Staff move from being the planners and doers of ministry to being cultivators and equippers of ministry. Staff reflected that even though a new way of working has evolved, people often expect the old way. Anyway, at the conclusion of the meeting, after people had been open with each other, someone said, &ldquo;This is really a safe place where we can express our thoughts and feelings and dream and plan together.&rdquo; </p><p>That reminded me of how much I need a safe place to be myself and share my thoughts and feelings to know that people will respect and support me. </p><p>I am reminded of Valdez, Alaska. It is a commercial fishing town, and as such, many of the population are fishermen. They pack their fishing boats, say goodbye to their families, and they fish the open waters for days and weeks at a time. They endure hardships and they work hard. After a while, they get tired and worn down. Then they head back to Valdez, for Valdez is their safe harbor. It is a place where they can come back to refresh themselves, to repair their gear, to share stories of success and failure and to connect with each other. Valdez is a place where they are accepted and understood. </p><p>Where are the safe places in your life? Where can you share your problems? Where you can dream God&rsquo;s dreams? Where you can be yourself? Where you are supported and loved in good and bad times? </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1577028.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>February 7, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 Feb 2008 17:40:31 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/2/8/february-7-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1553656</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>This week in our staff meeting here at First Presbyterian Church I asked that all the staff reflect upon what we need to give up and what we need to start doing in order for our ministry in the church to be more missional, more externally focused, more engaged in being witnesses of Christ in our community Monday through Saturday, more about equipping God&rsquo;s people to go to be kingdom builders&hellip;I offered that I thought that I need to give up 1) fear of failing and 2) fear of creating chaos in the settled, comfortable church. I also talked about what I thought I needed to do. One of those things was to get out of the office more and get engaged in the community. Too often people like myself have been trained to play it safe and to not rock the boat too much. Too often in my position, I feel that I get locked in the office as an administrator. I need to do some of that, but that does not define what I am called to do and what I need to do. </p><p>I was just reading a book, <em>Practicing Passion: Youth and the Quest for a Passionate Church </em>by Kenda Creasy Dean. She says the following: </p><p>&ldquo;Most of us spend our lives looking for ways to rekindle the passion of youth: the </p><p>burning desire to be engulfed by love, to be ignited by a purpose, to radiate light </p><p>because of the love of another shines within us&hellip;Young people, who by definition must </p><p>figure out how to be human, may not know that their quest for &ldquo;a love worth dying </p><p>for&rdquo; is a quest for Love who died for them. What compels them to search at all is </p><p>God&rsquo;s gift of passion, the deep human longing for authentic love - a longing present in </p><p>each of us, but acute during adolescence.&rdquo; </p><p>What I discovered in the midst of reflecting with my staff and the above reading is that inside of me is a passionate person who has stayed within the confines of the safe and predictable. I sense a love compelling me more than ever&hellip;a love worth dying for&hellip;playing church is not something I would die for. However, helping connect with Christ and His kingdom certainly is worth it&hellip;. </p><p>Inside of you, beyond your many levels of safety nets, what is your passion for Christ and His Kingdom? Will you step outside your fears? Jesus says, &ldquo;Peace I leave with you: my peace I give to you&hellip;Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not let them be afraid (John 14: 27).&rdquo; </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1553656.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>January 24, 2008</title><dc:creator>Admin</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 25 Jan 2008 18:48:29 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/2008/1/25/january-24-2008.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">178389:1843666:1510680</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>To four fishermen Jesus issued a simple and profound invitation, &ldquo;Follow me and I will make you fishers of men. &rdquo; They knew the routine: mending nets, rowing boats, battling waves, waiting after they cast their nets. They knew each other: brothers and friends and sons and fathers. Their lives were fairly predictable, relatively safe and somewhat stable. There they sat, hearing the words and seeing the presence of One who was beginning to capture the attention and hearts of so many. These very intriguing words were an invitation and yet that bidding involved them getting out of the boat, out of the safety, out of the predictable and out of the stable. I somehow sense that they knew that Jesus &rsquo; invitation involved adventure and relearning a portion of life. </p><p>James Baldwin wrote, &ldquo; Any real change implies the breaking of the world as one has always known it. &rdquo; I know that God is inviting me to follow Jesus, to change, to learn some new way of relating to myself, my family, others or to God when I begin to focus on changing other people or ministries too much. Yet, personal spiritual growth implies and involves change and risk. I am tempted like &lsquo; ole Zebedee to stay in the boat, clinging and clutching to old patterns and practices. That clinging and attachment is what Christian spirituality calls &ldquo; attachment. &rdquo; That word comes from a German root word that means &lsquo; staked &rdquo; or &ldquo;nailed to.&rdquo; It suggests that what makes us safe is also what puts us in danger. Our souls remain attached to something other than the love of God. We hold ourselves back from what God in Christ has called us to be. We fail to be involved in a ministry that is so vitally needed. We stop short of what we were meant to be. </p><p>As I write this I am sensing not just the invitation to take some steps to relearn some things, but I have swung my foot out of the boat of the familiar and I am beginning to get out... </p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.firstpresfargo.org/e-coffee-break/rss-comments-entry-1510680.xml</wfw:commentRss></item></channel></rss>